Being in unhealthy relationships ruled by a toxic love often looks like this:
“Loving you kills me and destroys me, especially when the love is not returned. It’s like driving one-way towards a dead end.
I’ve dreamed of our future, our life together and hoped for things that you cannot possibly imagine. You inspire me every day and my only wish is that we could be together. But, my shortcomings are not enough for you. You want me to change so I can be the girl of your dreams. I feel that I am simply not enough for you.
The pain of realizing that you do not share these same hopes and dreams cripples me.
Love hurts even more when the love is not returned. When love is one-dimensional, you get nothing back in return. How can I possibly love someone who doesn’t love me back?”
Loving someone who doesn’t love you back destroys your sense of self.
It can leave a person feeling not good enough. So, they attempt to win them over to prove that they’re good enough for them, but they end up putting a lot of effort into a dead-end relationship that goes nowhere.
Some will give up aspects of themselves to feel loved, only to feel unloved or rejected. They chase a man who has no intentions of loving them back, ignoring the signals that he is not invested in a relationship.
When you’ve been desperate for someone to love you, it can mean that you do not love yourself or feel good enough, inside. But, what is worse is that you end up changing yourself to fit in with a guy so that you feel loved.
Love comes from letting go of the chains of finding external validation when you feel better about yourself. Love comes when you love yourself and will not settle for someone who cannot love you back.
It’s hard to be honest with yourself and to ask yourself, “Does he love me?” Sometimes our hopes and dreams cause us to read into what we want to believe, rather than see the actual truth.
Someone who loves you will love the person you are, without needing you to change for them. Love occurs when you let go of needing someone to feel good about yourself when you can go for what you really want.
When you do not chase a man, you allow them to chase you back. When you make yourself a priority, so will they.